I can relate to most of it, except I don't have grand kids, but otherwise, it sounds so familiar... We can't help them, and more often than not they don't want any help, or even reject any attempts to help. And yet it hurts so much when we see them making awful decisions...

Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it. Somehow it helps to know it is not just me and my kids; your struggles and frustrations are so similar :-)